My Word for 2018

I’ve always been great at setting life goals (and breaking resolutions, LOL), but I’ve never actually sat down and picked a word to represent the year for me. For the past few months I’ve connected with an amazing group of women through social media. Initially we met through Rachel Hollis’ Last 90 Days challenge, but now we’ve branched off into our own group, to keep the momentum going in 2018 and hold each other accountable when it comes to our goals.

A conversation came up in the group about picking a word to represent our year. I spent a bit of time thinking, couldn’t come up with anything, and then just kinda forgot about it. But on January 1, I woke up and for some odd reason, I knew immediately what my word for 2018 would be.


No, I don’t mean slay in a morbid fashion, lol. I mean slay, as in kick ass, take names, dominate, succeed in everything I set my mind to, and do amazing things this year.

I am going to slay in 2018. 

And I am going to slay in all areas …

Health and wellness.

2018 will be my year.

This is going to sound completely selfish, but it feels good to be able to focus all my energy and attention on myself, my goals, and bettering my life. This is one reason why I’m thankful I’m single and childless. I have a prime opportunity in front of me, and I’m going to grab it up and take advantage of it and use the next 12 months to make life even better than it is already.

In the words of Train…

“No more, countin’ down the hours, no more, wishin’ you were here, I stopped believin’ although Journey told me don’t, before I call it a day, maybe this’ll be my year…”






Hello, 2018.

A new year is upon us. This is always an exciting time in my eyes, because each new year is a clean slate of sorts. Sure, we can’t make anything that happened in the previous 365 days go away, but we can catalogue it, file it away on the appropriate shelf, and move forward.

I stopped making resolutions years ago. I never achieved anything, my momentum was gone by like, February, I always had the same cliche shit I’d focus on, and it seemed like every year I was just setting myself up to fail. Then one year I decided to put together a list of life goals. I was in a bad spot in life, desperately needed some direction, and it seemed like a great way to move forward. I actually got shit done when I did this, I accomplished things, and before long, I had my own tradition.

This year, I decided I was going to take things to a new level for myself. I have life goals (which I’ll get to in a minute), but I’m incorporating a few vision boards (I LOVE them!), journaling, another planner (because 2 isn’t enough, LOL), lots of lists, and some different exercises to help keep me intentional and mindful. I decided that 2018 is going to be my  year, and that means I’m going big or I’m going home.

I love setting life goals for many reasons, but more than anything, I love setting them because I’m continually trying to be the best version of myself. And the way to get there is by setting goals and working towards them.

So, without further ado, here are my 2018 Life Goals:

  1. Continue to work toward being healthy in all ways – physically, emotionally, and mentally. Since 2015, I’ve been on a journey to get healthy. I had some ups and downs over the last year, but I blew into 2018 63 pounds lighter than I was when I started this, and seven pounds away from being the lightest I have been since 2005. I’ve entered 2018 alive and kicking in this area: I have a nutritionist in place who creates nutritious, healthy Paleo meal plans for me to follow and I’m on a workout schedule that includes a combination of cardio, strength training, and yoga. I have a gratitude journal. I’m working on mindfulness. I’m making an effort to get 7-8 hours of sleep each night. I’m going to kill it in this area this year, and I’m so amped.
  2. Pay off my credit cards and eliminate frivolous spending. I’ll be completely honest here and say that I have some serious financial management issues. I tend to spend freely without thinking about the consequences, especially when it’s on a piece of magic plastic that I can just charge and charge and charge on without having to pay in full. Also, I have a horrible tendency to just go out and purchase shit I don’t need, because I’m bored and I want something to do. Starting in February, I’ll be using Dave Ramsey’s snowball method to start plowing through this debt. I don’t think I can knock it all out in one year, but I’ll have a good chunk of it gone by 2019. And when it comes to actual spending, I’m going to focus on differentiating between wants and needs. And eliminating the wants as much as possible.
  3. Try a new experience every month. I always make sure to have at least one fun life goal every year, and this is my fun goal for 2018. I want to branch out and try new things. Things that I ordinarily wouldn’t do (art class, for example). And who knows, maybe I can meet some cool people along the way too!
  4. Get a manuscript ready for publication. I’ve been working on this forever as well, but with my efforts to pay off debt, I will have quite a bit of free time on my hands, as I’ll be avoiding spending money. So, this will be the year that I get one of my fanfic stories polished up, rewritten, and prepped for publication.
  5. Stop trying to find a relationship and let one find me instead. For some reason, I decided to try the dating thing again in 2017. And it’s been, well … interesting, for lack of a better term. I’m not giving up by any means, but I am going to kill the lights on my online profiles and stop actively pursuing anything. Sometimes this shit is just too stressful, and quite frankly, I’d rather put my energy into myself and if something comes along that works, then that’s great. If nothing comes along, that’s fine too. I love my life exactly how it is. I don’t feel incomplete because I don’t have a significant other. And I’m at a point in my life where if I let somebody in, it’s because they make my life better, because it’s already pretty great, and I can’t make room for anyone who won’t bring something good to the table.

I don’t think I’ve ever felt quite as excited or happy about a new year as I do about this one. It’s like there’s this extra buzz of excitement floating in the air around me. I feel like there are dozens of possibilities coming, like there are doors that will open and experiences awaiting and all kinds of greatness on the horizon.

I hope that 2018 brings everyone joy, love, peace, and prosperity.

Until next time…



#MotivationalMonday – A New Year



I always roll my eyes when people start posting stuff like “New year, new me,” blah blah blah. So, I’m not going to do that here.

In truth, I don’t think we need a new year, or even a Monday, to make the decision to change our lives. We can do that any day, it just involves making a commitment and staying dedicated.

I used to make these huge, elaborate lists of resolutions at the start of each year. I’d be amped up on them for maybe 3 weeks, then my excitement would fizzle and by the time December 31 rolled around, I didn’t accomplish anything. Then I decided it was better to come up with Life Goals. They’re practical, they’re attainable, and they’re ongoing in some cases. These were things that actually mattered to me, so I was way more likely to strive to reach them. And, because life can’t be serious all the time, I made sure to add one random, fun goal in there each year.

So, to kick off the new year (and my consistent blogging ritual), I have my 2017 Life Goals all ready to roll out:

1. Continue becoming healthier.

This is a big one for me, and it’s something that I’ve been working on for almost two years now. I’ve learned so much about what it means to eat right, the right types of physical activity I need for my body and the issues I deal with, and what foods I need to eliminate because they wreak havoc on my system. So what does this mean for the coming year? Weekly meal packing sessions will continue. Paleo life will continue. Avoidance of gluten and dairy will continue, because they both make me feel like shit when I consume them. There will be no more soda. There will be very limited sugar. And there will be much time spend being physically active in some way, shape or form. This whole lifestyle evolution is something I’ve been working toward, and I’ve had successes and failures both. But, I refuse to give up. Because I love me.

2. Publish something.

I have this problem in life called “I always have fifteen projects going at the same time.” Not just in one area either. I always have five books I’m reading, three online projects going, five work projects in progress … and, of course, a zillion stories that are outlined or partially written. I get plot bunnies every time I turn around, and I have such a hard time caging them up. And I have SO MANY stories that are just floating around in my head at any given time. So, this year, I’m going to work on really channeling my time and energy into one piece of work and hopefully having it ready for publication by the end of 2017.

3. Master the art of contouring. 

This is my fun, random goal for the year. I love makeup. I love creating fun looks. But, I just can’t seem to grasp the whole concept of contouring. So, 2017 will involve testing a lot of brands, brushes, and techniques. And maybe having this completely superficial thing figured out by the end of the year.

4. Start saving to buy a house. 

For the first time in a long time, I’m in a position where I feel like I’m ready to make a commitment like purchasing a home. Now it’s about getting financially situated so I do things the right way.

5. Stop giving more than I get. 

I do this all the time. I have a big heart, I love the hell out of the people in my life, and sometimes I end up in these situations where I’m making most all of the effort to keep the relationship afloat while the other person kinda sits around and half asses their end of things. It’s always been something I’ve struggled with, because I care immensely about the people in my life, and I’m very much focused on maintaining relationships and seeing them last. But … I’m no longer going to do this at the expense of myself. Relationships are two way streets, and unfortunately I will not be the one holding up both ends to keep them on solid ground anymore. It might cost me a friendship or two, but honestly, if that happens, was that person really a friend to begin with? I don’t think so.